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My opinions, and oh, I’ve got them – Part 5 of 5

Lastly, there are the people who are pessimistic about breastfeeding.

I recently offered up two canisters of Enfamil formula on Twitter. They showed up in my mailbox that afternoon (either thanks to Motherhood Maternity or Baptist Hospital selling my contact information – yay!), and I don’t need or want them, because I am determined to breastfeed. I got a well-meaning response telling me that I might want to hang on to them because the individual’s wife had to give up on breastfeeding after a few weeks.

Like I said, it was well-meaning, but it was more negativity that I was not interested in hearing. This is the way I’ve chosen to do it, and this is how I’m going to do it. If I fail, you can quietly pat yourself on the back, but for now, there is no reason not to be positive. Plenty of people succeed at it.

Furthermore, I’ve read a lot about breastfeeding and I feel like I’ve got a pretty good handle on how to do it, and what to do if there’s a problem. Every single thing I’ve read about it says that if it’s not working out, don’t give up without talking to a doctor, nurse or lactation consultant. They might know something you don’t. It’s worth a shot.

On a side note, I don’t understand why people don’t at least give it a chance (barring medical complications like HIV). Even if you don’t give a shit about all of the benefits to the baby, there are benefits for you, too. The main two being weight loss (you burn a lot of calories breastfeeding) and a considerable savings (formula is expensive). Maybe I’m missing something, but it seems like something you should try rather than dismissing it out of hand.

I think that the bottom line is this: whether or not you’ve had kids, you need to be conscious of what you say to people who are expecting. At best, they’ve already heard it, and at worst, you’re really going to piss them off. It’s probably best to keep your lips zipped until you are asked for advice or opinions. Or you can just hold an aspirin between your lips.

Comments for this post are closed. I’ve learned that mothers and mothers-to-be can be an easily-angered, opinionated and judgmental group (obviously I’m no exception). In order to prevent myself from having one more thing to get mad about, I’m not really interested in hearing that you disagree. This is really my last place to vent, since Twitter and Facebook (oh especially you, Facebook) have become minefields. If you don’t like my opinion, no one’s forcing you to read.

Written by janeqpublic

March 10, 2012 at 5:15 am

My opinions, and oh, I’ve got them – Part 4 of 5

The people who want to edit your birth plan are probably the same people as the “oh you’ll give that up” people. My specific examples of that are in the cloth diapering and breastfeeding situations.

I’ll complain about the cloth diapering thing today and the boob lunch counter tomorrow.

I decided early on that I was going to go with cloth diapers. I’m not terribly environmentally conscious – it isn’t that I wouldn’t like to be, but I haven’t had a lot of time to put into thought or effort on the subject. This was mostly a financial choice. Anyone will tell you, whether or not they used cloth diapers, that disposables are expensive. So we’re doing cloth to save money.

When I told my dad, the original Negative Nancy (I couldn’t think of a K word to go with Ken, but I guess Defeatist Dale would also work), that we were going to use cloth diapers, he said “Oh, you don’t want to do that. Those are a pain.” Ugh. This is so typical of him, but I wanted to punch him anyway.

One good way to handle this sort of thing is to remind them that cloth diapers are very different from they way they were 30 years ago when they were on my butt. Yes, you can still get those pre-fold things that need the pins (you can even skip the pins and go for these), and then buy a diaper cover to go over it, or you can simplify. Now they make two incredibly convenient types of cloth diapers – All-In-Ones (which are exactly as they sound – all one piece, only different from disposables in that they are washed and reused instead of thrown away), and Pocket Diapers (basically an all-in-two because the diaper has a little pocket where you put a cloth insert for absorbency). Totally easy.

To add to the convenience that’s available in cloth diapering now that my parents didn’t have with me, is the diaper sprayer. It’s basically like a kitchen sprayer that hooks up to your toilet’s water supply and enables you to rinse poop off of the diaper before you throw it into your diaper pail.

(TIP: If you purchase one that’s marketed as just a diaper sprayer, you’re going to pay around $45. Take a look at eBay, where they’re usually marked as “diaper sprayer/bidet.” I got one there for $15 or $20 and it was very easy to hook up. Plus, it helps with keeping the toilet clean.)

Anyway, cloth diapering isn’t so hard, and I’m determined to succeed at it. I’m most likely going to use disposables when I’m away from home, but I’m willing to try cloth diapers on the go. I’m also going to give cloth wipes a shot at home, but I’m not super optimistic on those.

Comments for this post are closed. I’ve learned that mothers and mothers-to-be can be an easily-angered, opinionated and judgmental group (obviously I’m no exception). In order to prevent myself from having one more thing to get mad about, I’m not really interested in hearing that you disagree. This is really my last place to vent, since Twitter and Facebook (oh especially you, Facebook) have become minefields. If you don’t like my opinion, no one’s forcing you to read.

Written by janeqpublic

March 9, 2012 at 5:15 am